If a man has intercourse with a woman, and she becomes pregnant, he has to marry her to the 'bidu dhare' rite. Before the marriage ceremony is performed, he has to grasp a plantain tree with his right hand, and the tree is then cut down.
Reference: 'The Mysore' by Venkatesa ayengar
"Bidu Dhare" is a unique custom in the Billava community, particularly in Karnataka and Kerala.
Bidu Dhare:
1. Meaning: "Testing the compatibility" or "trial marriage".
2. Purpose: To assess the compatibility between the couple before marriage.
3. Practice: The couple is allowed to live together for a short period.
Historical Context:
1. Ancient practice: Bidu Dhare has its roots in ancient Billava customs.
2. Tribal influence: Influenced by tribal traditions, where trial marriages were common.
Customs and Rituals:
1. Family approval: Families agree to the trial period.
2. Temporary cohabitation: Couple lives together for a few days or weeks.
3. Assessment: Couple evaluates their compatibility.
4. Decision-making: Couple decides whether to proceed with marriage.
Significance:
1. Ensures compatibility: Helps prevent mismatched marriages.
2. Reduces divorce rate: Trial period helps identify potential issues.
3. Strengthens bond: Couples develop emotional intimacy.
Changes in Modern Times:
1. Decline of Bidu Dhare: Modernization and urbanization have led to a decline.
2. Social stigma: Viewed as unconventional or unacceptable.
3. Replacement with courtship: Younger generations prefer modern courtship.
Comparison with Other Communities:
1. Similar practices: Found in some African and Indigenous cultures.
2. Differences: Billava customs unique in Indian context.
Legal and Social Implications:
1. Legal concerns: Not recognized by Indian law.
2. Social implications: May lead to social ostracism.
Reference: 'The Mysore' by Venkatesa ayengar
